I don't know…. But very few 15 year olds in school seek out the friendship of a 12 year old, so I'd really want to know more about who these girls are and why they do. So I'd want to know more about who they are and what they want in this friendship. Exception: I homeschooled my youngest and cross-age friendships in our support group were common.
Teens have many different kinds of friends. There are casual acquaintances, associates, classmates, school friends, friends from camp or church or dance or soccer, all with varying and shifting degrees of closeness. In contrast to the analysis in Chapter 1, this portion of the survey involved questions that asked teens to focus on all of the ways in which they spend time and interact with the friend who is closest to them. In order to gain a broad understanding of the places — including online places — teens spend time with their closest friends, the survey presented nine different venues, activities or locations and asked teens to indicate whether they regularly spend time with their closest friend at each of these venues or activities. Overall, school is by far the top location where teens say they spend time with their closest friends. The percentage of teens who spend time with their closest friend at school is largely consistent across a wide range of demographic groups.
Inevitably, middle school friendships change. And your middle schooler may come home complaining about frenemies, mean girls and boys , or even bullies. We thought you'd also like this article: Back Off, Mom and Dad! Fostering Independence In Middle Schoolers. Hardest of all for many parents is that your adolescent may not want your help navigating this brave new world, at all. For teens, every aspect of their identity is tied to their social life. Even activities that seem unrelated to friends, like sports or academics, affect their social standing.
Friendship is an important part of kids' development. Having friends helps them be independent beyond the family and prepares them for the mutual, trusting relationships we hope they'll establish as adults. Members of the clique usually follow the leader's rules, whether it's wearing particular clothes or doing certain activities. Kids in cliques often worry about whether they'll still be popular or whether they'll be dropped for doing or saying the wrong thing or for not dressing in a certain way.